It was an interesting relationship. Years ago we had started with a coaching focus on her professional development, but over time I became more of a mentor. With still more time we entered the spiritual realm of her growth and development, eventually becoming peers and spiritual playmates.
One day, we had a simple but beautiful exchange.
"Are you sure you know where you are going?" she asked with a twinkle of mischief in her eyes.
I replied, "I have never known. But I have been known to think I do."
It was a humbling moment of honesty.
I can recall a number of coaching sessions where I've proposed to clients they should relinquish their insistence on the specific details of their plans and desires. Perhaps the way of things is far more illusive and beyond our knowing. What if it is our specification of the details that stands in the way of the Way, whether you believe it to be Higher Self, the Force, or the Divine? What if the possibilities and potential dwarf our feeble attempts to define our future?
Regardless of such questions and opportunities, our fears govern. We pray with desperation. Or perform visioning exercises with exquisitely crafted detail. Or plan, plan, plan, as if through our efforts we can ensure our desires will manifest. Then we focus our will and action on these, only to often find disappointment awaiting us when our expectations are unrealized.
All the while, the marketers of the world draw us in. Ministers suggest that God wants you to prosper. Book titles propose the realization of your dreams through a simple list of actions. The alternative realms allure with promises that psychic or mystical interventions will deliver you. The self-improvement world beckons with the ideals of self-realization.
At times, it seems the world is a giant carnival filled with barkers of every type, preying on our fears of lack and limitation, catering to our well-intended illusions.
What would it be like to be free of the pursuit? More importantly, how would you feel if you no longer perceived a lack or limitation, if your life were whole and you with it? What then would become of your visions and plans?
Seeing True
Perhaps there is a better way. If I have a destination in mind, I am often disappointed. But without a destination, there is the possibility of surprise, intrigue or delight.
Seeing True in Action
Consider this. Set an aim rather than a goal, a direction in which to head instead of a destination for your arrival. This allows for innovation, adaptation and possibilities rather than constraining them. Instead of details and specifics, hold in your heart the feeling of your desires. Allow that feeling to lead and guide you.
Ron Chapman is owner of an international speaking and consulting company, Magnetic North LLC, a specialty company, Leading Public Health, and a publishing company Seeing True Press. In addition to international accreditation as a speaker and national awards for radio commentary, Ron is the prolific author of one fiction book, two works of non-fiction and two sets of Compact Discs. http://www.seeingtrue.com
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